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Steven Frenzel's avatar

Goodness, that is a FASCINATING story, and is excellent evidence towards your point that Marilyn, who endured more pressure and aggressively sexualized attention (which was sadly excused because she was seen as an entity that belonged to everyone) than perhaps anyone in the 20th century, would indeed have been a great friend to have. Imagine all those cars slowing down - and she was the only one brave enough to stop and actually get to know the people the police were cautioning others about. Her having that level of curiosity AND courage is more evidence as well of her intelligence and decency, which is also so sadly overlooked. I think one of the saddest examples of how she was treated can be heard in an actual audio clip - some reporter for some rag back in the era was a three-day celebrity because she had managed to squirrel some truly personal details out of Marilyn during an interview. The reporter is being asked about it on the audio clip by Edgar Bergen, and he keeps laughing and making lascivious comments as this woman talks proudly about how she tricked Marilyn - "...and then I put my pencil down, making her think the interview portion was over, and then asked, 'So Marilyn, tell me...'" It's stomach churning, as is Bergen's delight over how Marilyn was tricked. I much prefer to hear how the great Jack Benny treated her when she did that spectacularly fun and funny appearance on his show, the one and only time she did scripted television. Jack Benny declared to one and all that Marilyn had the true gift for comedy. It's especially touching at the end of the episode when you see Marilyn drop her persona briefly, and just be herself as she enjoys being with Jack. Thank you for this beautiful essay - I will definitely go get a copy of Sight and Sound! (I managed to eat at Musso and Frank Grill once, and our waiter told us (after I asked!) that Marilyn really enjoyed the table we were currently sitting at. Was it true? Don't know - but as Steve Martin says at the end of L.A. Story, "A kiss may not be the truth, but it is what we wish were true.")

Marjorie J. Birch's avatar

I remember the day after my tenth birthday because I was allowed to ride my bicycle all the way to the local store and then I heard about Marilyn's death.

My mother wondered why I was so upset and I didn't know how to tell her. But as a child I was convinced that if I became her friend, everything would be better for her. (see also "Candle in the Wind")

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